How would you feel if your young child broke one of your most priceless items? Would you get angry? Would you try to fix the situation, and offer a solution or replacement for the broken item? We all would handle the situation in different ways. Some of us would become angry at the child and wonder why he was so careless. Others would be more sympathetic and realize the child was sad because they upset you and their one desire was to please you.
The broken item for me is not actually an item, but rather a family. It is a family that has always been near and dear to my heart - with four kids in the picture, there is not just one broken thing but several. Broken hearts, broken home, broken trust...and the list goes on. Much like the child that is sad when he breaks your special item, when a marriage is broken children feel as though they were the ones who broke it. Those kids look into your eyes and try to figure out if you are going to scold them or try to fix what they destroyed.
I could rant and rave about how angry I am with specific people in this situation, or I could step up and love the children that are broken and hurting.
So, what does this have to do with being a busy mom? Along with leading a busy life there are always obstacles thrown in my way. Have you ever been driving down the street on a windy day and suddenly, seemingly from nowhere, you see a trash can hurtling towards your car. You swerve to miss the trash can but it hits the car anyway, leaving a noticeable dent on the side of the car door. That is how this situation has been for me - the trash can (the divorce) was thrown in my path and now a visual dent is shown all over my face.
Writer's note - I am not the one going through the divorce.
Divorce sucks. I live with some of the consequences everyday because I am married to a divorced man with one child from the relationship. It does affect more than just the couple or family unit involved. Of course I must agree that it affects kids the worst.
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